Write About Everything

Every sex problem can be solved if you’re able to talk honestly about sex with your partner. The smallest problem can ruin your sex life if you don’t.

Research proves this simple fact, time and time again.

If you’ve no idea how to talk openly, this list will act as inspiration.

You’ll find fact-finding questions. Titillating ones to get you both pleasantly aroused. And questions designed to unearth any underlying issues that might be affecting how you enjoy sex now.

Choose your question depending on where you’re at in your relationship and your comfort levels, then ask away!

Every sex problem can be solved if you’re able to talk honestly about sex with your partner says se expeet Tracey Cox (stock image) 

What was your first sexual experience like? 

There is a school of thought that says how and who you lose your virginity with, will affect your sex life forever. If it’s a positive experience, you’re more likely to view sex as something that’s healthy and enjoyable. The reverse happens if it goes badly and you felt hurt or used.

If your partner struggles with trust issues and isn’t sure why, Gay Anal Porn this could give clues.

What was your parents’ view of sex?

Did they grow up with strict, religious parents who never spoke of sex or gave the impression sex was dirty or ‘bad’? Negative messages about sex can linger, hindering future enjoyment.

Have you had any disturbing sexual experiences?

Unless your partner volunteers this info, I’d wait until there’s a good level of trust established before going there. Traumatic sexual experiences strongly impact our ability to relax and allow ourselves to be vulnerable during sex.

How important is sex to you?

Everyone’s desire for sex is artificially inflated at the start of a relationship. This question should reveal what their usual ‘resting’ libido is: how often they feel like sex once the relationship is established.

How often do you like to have sex?

Don’t assume that someone who says sex is very important to them wants it daily. They might prefer a longer, explorative weekly session than short, rushed encounters.

Others want sex regularly and feel frustrated if it doesn’t happen at least five times a week. Knowing where you both stand early can be a big heads up on whether you’ll work well together or not.

British sex expert Tracey Cox reveals questions couples should ask each other about sex

What’s film or TV show puts you in the mood?

A seemingly innocent question that offers important insights into the style of sex they prefer.

It’s they name a light romantic comedy, closeness and intimacy are strong motivators. Lady Chatterley’s Lover hints they’ll like a touch of the forbidden; a raunchy, kink classic like The Secretary suggests an adventurous lover.